At the beginning of January, after Brandi and I had a particularly difficult time with Cakey, I set out to solve an ongoing problem with initiative in our household. This simple lifehack will help you win your initiative roll…OK, that joke was probably not for Brandi’s core audience.
Unless you are micromanaged to the point of being a robot for your boss, you probably experience initiative fatigue at the end of the day.
Most of us work jobs that involve mental processing and only light physical activity. If you work a physically intense job, this lifehack probably isn’t for you. However, if you’ve ever come home and started feeling stressed when your spouse just wants to know what you want for dinner, you’re probably experiencing initiative fatigue. On some days this feeling probably fades after an hour or so, and on bad days you might just feel the same way until you go to bed.
There are two ways to handle this lack of initiative.
- You can rely on your spouse to just ask you to do things. Chances are you have the physical energy to handle any household task, especially if your job isn’t physically demanding. Someone else asking you to do something means they are taking the initiative, so you just comply with the request and everything proceeds smoothly. This will work fine for some couples, but if the one doing the asking is a stay-at-home mom with small children, she probably isn’t going to appreciate having to babysit a grown man when he gets home.
- My method was simply to make a schedule from my usual time returning home until our usual bed time. I then made a list of activities to fill each time slot in half hour increments. The first week of using the list, I kept it in front of me so I always knew what to do next. I got every household chore done without having to take any initiative at all. Past me took the initiative so present me didn’t have to.
It works quite well. I get everything done. Brandi can spend the evening focusing on Cakey and Doodles, tasks that she is much better at than I am. By the time the girls go to bed, I usually have everything done, and my mind has emerged from its initiative fatigue so I can start making decisions again.
If “what do you want to do for dinner?” makes you cringe, try this simple tip.
Live long and prosper!
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