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I know it’s been said a million times, but parenting is the toughest, most rewarding job on the planet. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of each day until you forget to take time to really connect and engage with your children. And if you have preschoolers and toddlers it can be quite challenging! Their little bodies and minds are going a thousand different directions. Today, I’m excited to share with you 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler and I’ll also be sharing a little review of the new book 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids.
And bonus! There is also a discount code to get 50% off the book!
One thing that is really important to me as a parent is listening to my girls’ hearts. I want them to know that they can talk to me about anything. Right now as a preschooler and toddler, they tell me little things, but one day those little things will turn into big things like friendship drama and boys, and I want them to still feel comfortable enough to talk to me about it all.
I love having them tell me all about the bugs they dug up in the garden or why they painted the sky bright pink. But sometimes it seems almost impossible to get them to talk to me. Oh sure, they are talking a mile a minute, but they are not sharing what’s on their hearts and minds. I like to periodically have little chat sessions with them so they can share whatever they want with me.
Sometimes those sessions take place snuggled in my bed before we begin the day. Sometimes we are in the car driving to the grocery store. Other times it’s while we watch a favorite TV show or read a favorite book.
At the bottom of the post you will find a downloadable PDF link with the 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler.
35 Questions to engage your preschooler or toddler
- How did you sleep? If my girls answer good, it’s high fives all around. If they say bad we talk about what we can do to make them feel better like hugs/cuddles, having some quiet time or naps, or going to bed earlier.
- Did you have any dreams that you would like to tell me about?
- What is one thing you would like to do today?
- If you could pick out dinner, what would we have?
- What would you like to learn about today?
- Tell me about your picture.
- What is one thing you learned today? I like having Dad ask this since he was not there. They like to give him mini lessons on what they learned.
- Who is your favorite character in ___ (insert favorite TV show/movie/book) and why do you like ___ (insert character name)?
- After a character makes a mistake or does something wrong, What do you think ___ (insert character name) should have done differently here?
- If you were in ___ (insert favorite TV show/movie/book) what would you do first?
- What was your favorite part about today? (or) What made you happy today?
- What made you sad today? It’s good to get them talking through their feelings.
- Is there anyone you wish you could have seen today?
- If you could go on a trip where would you go?
- What do you want to be when you grow up?
- What is the first thing you want to do when we get to ___ (the park, playground, grandparents house, splash pad, etc)
- What made you feel loved today? It’s very important that they feel loved everyday!
- What is your favorite thing to do as a family?
- Would you sing me a song?
- What is your favorite animal? And why do you like ___ (insert animal)?
- If you could have any animal as a pet, what would you have?
- If you could have a superpower, what would you have? My girls are very much enamored with the Avengers. In case you are wondering, Cakey would be Jane the Wasp and Doodles would be Ironman or Hawkeye.
- If you had 3 wishes, what would they be?
- If your clothes could only be one color, what color would they be? Cakey’s of course always picks pink and Doodles usually picks yellow.
- If you could be an animal for a day, what animal would you be and why?
- What is your favorite thing to do?
- Where is your favorite place to be?
- Who made you smile today?
- What was the funniest thing that happened today?
- Are you afraid of something? What is it and why?
- What do you like about ___ (insert each family member)?
- Is there anything you would like to change about our family? The last time I asked this the girls informed me they wanted a brother.
- What is one thing you would like to do this weekend as a family?
- How many hugs (or kisses) do you need each day?
- Do you have any prayer requests? Or who would you like to pray for tonight?
About the book:
“I love my child, but parenting is hard.”
Whether you find parenting intuitive or impossible, we could all use a hand here and there. Let child psychologist and father Todd Cartmell walk you through the nuts and bolts of healthy, effective parenting.
Using examples from his home and 20 years of professional practice, Todd gives eight essential and practical tools to help you:
- Maintain a healthy relationship with your child
- Develop a nurturing home culture
- Correct behavior in lasting ways
The 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids are: Talking, Listening, Influencing, Connecting, Teaching, Encouraging, Correcting and Learning. Each tool is broken down into 5 short chapters. The chapters are only a 3-4 pages long and include both a practical tip and some questions to ponder. They are perfect to read a chapter before bed. Which is perfect for our busy lives!
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Update 5/16/2016: Moody Publishers was offering a discount code for 50% off 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids that expired on May 15th. I have updated this post to reflect that change. The book is still available on Moody Publishers or here on Amazon.
I started reading 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids on Tuesday and have really been enjoying it and finding it very insightful. I love how each of the 8 tools are broken down into 5 short chapters. The chapters are easy to read especially with two active littles running around. While I have not finished the book, I should finish it by the end of next week, and I plan on reading it again with James. I think there is a lot of information inside that will greatly benefit our family. So far I have made it through “Talking and Listening” and most of “Influencing.”
I have already begun implementing some of the main ideas in the Talking and Listening chapters. And I have to say that I’ve noticed differences in the girls and my interactions compared to how they normally were. Not that my girls are listening immediately, but they’ve improved and so have I.
As a wife and mother, I believe it is essential for me to continue growing and learning how to be a better wife, mother, friend, and person. While 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids is a parenting book I have found that some of the tips are important to be implemented in other areas of my life as well.
I hope these 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler help give you a start on some great conversations with your kiddos. Just remember, you are asking them questions to listen to their hearts. So let them talk and only ask questions to follow up and keep them talking.
You can download the 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler here via Dropbox.
Have a great day!
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