Back in January when James created our nightly schedules we added a couples devotion time. The problem was we did not have a plan for the time period.
A few months before I bought the Kindle version of The Love Dare because it was free. I had a vague understanding of the book and kinda thought that it might be the book that was mentioned in that one movie with Kirk Cameron but other than that I had no clue what the book was about. Turns out The Love Dare is the book from the movie Fireproof with Kirk Cameron.
I suggested to James that we could read it and he agreed. Before I give you our opinions of the book I would like you to understand that James and I were not anywhere near the situations that are dramatized in the movie Fireproof. In fact our only “problem” in our marriage was putting our marriage last. And putting your marriage last can be a big problem. In our case it was just beginning and we both realized it and we both wanted to nip it in the bud. The grind of everyday life of work, kids, chores, repeat can wear a person and marriage down before you realize it.
So we started intentionally spending time together each day and focusing on our marriage.
I feel that there were about 10 dares or so that were awesome and relevant to our marriage. I felt that they were wake up calls to us. I think we learned more about each other and ourselves by completing those 10 dares. I felt that the other 30 dares were not relevant to us and I pray that they never are.
I did find the “test” mentioned in the beginning (it is available online) to be very informative and helpful. It really showed us where James and I differ and where we could improve. The test in itself was really worth the time it took to take. The printout of the test told you which chapters to pay attention too and work on. I found that to be very helpful.
Brandi is definitely right when she says the early part of the book was useful, but the later part wasn’t. The first quarter was ideal for couples who have most everything right with a few hiccups they aren’t sure how to address, but are ready and willing to address them with a little direction. The rest of the book is less a divorce prevention handbook and more a homicide prevention handbook. The attitude of the authors is that the readers must hate each other. It’s sad to imagine, but I’m certain there are marriages that need that sort of intervention. I just doubt that they’d be willing to read such a book if they are in such dire circumstances.
There’s nothing wrong with this book. It has a lot of good advice, but if you read it with the assumption that you need all of the advice in the book, you may feel like you’re being accused of having a hostile marriage. Take what you need, leave the rest for the antagonistic couples.
I think the Love Dare is a good book for couples (just take what advice you need and leave the rest). I personally believe you should not wait until your marriage is having problems to focus on it. Since reading the Love Dare James and I have grown closer, talk more, and face our day to day challenges together as a team.
Have you ever read The Love Dare? What was your experience like?
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