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Last Wednesday was a DAY for me. Left and right things seemed to be going wrong. I kept focusing on glimpses into other peoples lives and comparing their lives to mine. The problem with glimpses is they only tell a piece of the story. Not the whole story. While reading I’m Happy For You (Sort of…Not Really) I have noticed how the glimpses into other people’s lives are affecting my life. And sadly, most of the time it is not pretty. Take a glimpse into my life on Wednesday and the comparison trap that followed.
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Tuesday, James had put a load of laundry in the wash, but I discovered on Wednesday morning that some of the girls’ clothes had been left out. The clothes that I needed to pack for our trip. The trip we were leaving on in 4 hours. Clothes like Doodles’s jeans (that she ended up not even wearing during the trip)! I started the load and folded the load from the night before. I know, amazing, right?
I even laid out everyone’s clothes on my bed making sure we had enough of each item for the trip. I’m normally an over packer. But this time I was trying very hard to ONLY bring the essentials. No more. No less.
After switching the laundry, I realized I needed to go to the doctor’s office immediately to pick up my vitamin order because James had been unable to get it on Friday… and Monday… and Tuesday. Loading up two toddlers first thing in the morning is not my idea of fun. Not to mention, we had yet to have breakfast. Or COFFEE.
After a very cranky car ride to the doctor’s and back, I finally got the girls breakfast. While eating my own breakfast, I perused Facebook from my phone. Big mistake. While scrolling along, I saw a couple of pictures my cousin posted of her girls making pies together for Thanksgiving, I saw glimpses into other friends and families lives as they got ready to celebrate Thanksgiving. And the comparing started and I was left feeling sad and jealous. I thought about how much fun these people were having today with their families while I was running around trying to get ready for a 14 hour road trip. I quickly closed my phone because after all what had I just been reading about in I’m Happy For You (Sort Of… Not Really) about comparisons and all? I mentally snapped myself back to my reality. You know the one with two yogurt covered kids.
I had been planning on them wearing the outfits they were in on the trip but they and the yogurt had other ideas. After changing their clothes, I finished packing our suite cases, and realized I had not had a shower yet. Once showered and dressed, I quickly ran around packing a cooler with… juice because someone (me) had forgotten to pick up water. At least we had snacks because when you’re gluten free you cannot take a chance on finding decent gluten free food on the road. I’m sure you can guess how peeved I was yet all the while I kept muttering to myself that those friends and family I saw on Facebook getting to do something fun while I’m stuck doing this… which to me was the exact opposite of fun!
Once everything was packed and waiting by the front door, it was time to load the car because we were supposed to be ready to leave when James got home at 12:30 pm. I opened the front door to discover that it was pouring. Great! Just great! And all my umbrellas are in the van. Super! After I sloshed outside to get the umbrella, I noticed that not one but two strollers were in the van. Well that is just FANTASTIC! Not only did I have to move the big one but I needed to move both carseats! Finally, I get the carseats moved, the van loaded, and start to load the girls when I notice that Cakey was soaking wet! I sent her inside to change while I buckled Doodles then I went inside to do one last check and lose it. The massive tears that rolled down my face, the poor-is-me sobs that shook my body, all because things were crazy and I could not stop comparing my life to the glimpses I saw on Facebook!
James helped me finish up and we headed out on the road… well maybe not. I informed James that we did not have water for the trip, I had not feed anyone lunch, and we needed to fill up the gas tank. An immediate pit stop time at WaWa was called for since we can get everything there. Only once we arrived at WaWa, my problems become worse. I realized no one sent Cakey to the bathroom before loading her up, so I had to take her in with me. It starts raining, again while I was unbuckling her. When I tried to maneuver over the cooler and out of the van, I started to fall. Thankfully, I caught myself but end up ripping my favorite palazoo pants! After getting Cakey to the restroom it dawned on me that I had neglected to pack her night time diapers. Oh and we needed bowls for the girls’ snacks. We had to go back to the house… YAY!
While sitting at the light I told James, “If one more thing goes wrong before we even get going on this trip, I’m going HOME!” He tried to reassure me that everything would be fine but he was pretty upset too probably because I was upset and my bad attitude was infecting everyone. While he was inside the house picking up the things we had forgotten, I tried to change my perspective. I went back to Facebook, found the posts from my cousin and others that I kept focusing on and clicked “like” on them. I prayed that they would truly have a great day and I prayed mine would get better.
Later on the trip, I remembered my cousin would be working on Thanksgiving and that they were celebrating early because of that. I remembered that like her so many others would be working on Thanksgiving and not getting to spend the day with their families but I do. Yes we would have to drive 14 hours but we would get to spend the day with 5 of my husband’s siblings and their families, my in-laws, and his aunt and uncle and their kids. My girls would get to play with their cousins all day. They would get to run around chasing chickens and ducks and cats and dogs. My husband and I would not have to cook, we would get to spend time with his family that we only get to see a few times a year and never all together like this.
Yes truly I am blessed, if only I would stop to remember my blessings instead of comparing them to others. As I have been reading I’m Happy For You (Sort Of…Not Really), I have been struck with all the times I do compare myself, life, kids, etc with others. I never realized how often I compared those things. Comparison is not too bad, it becomes a problem when jealousy and envy enter and start stealing our joy and contentment. I need to focus on finding contentment and joy in my life instead of focusing on the glimpses of others.
This holiday season, I’m joining author of I’m Happy For You (Sort Of…Not Really) Kay Willis Wyma and her family as she’s started to #HydrateForTheHolidays on her blog to learn how to recapture contentment and joy, especially in Nov. & Dec.!!
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