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April 15, 2016 by Brandi

35 Questions to Engage Your Preschooler or Toddler

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35 Questions to Engage Your Preschooler or Toddler - 35 questions to ask your preschooler or toddler to engage and listen to their hearts also review of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids. And bonus! There is also a discount code to get 50% off the book! #8SimpleTools #FlyBy

35 Questions to Engage Your Preschooler or Toddler - 35 questions to ask your preschooler or toddler to engage and listen to their hearts also review of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids. And bonus! There is also a discount code to get 50% off the book! #8SimpleTools #FlyBy

Disclosure (in accordance with the FTC’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”): I did receive a free copy of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids in exchange for this review and post. This post may contain affiliate links. This means if you make a purchase through one of these links, Penguins in Pink will receive a commission at no additional cost to you.

I know it’s been said a million times, but parenting is the toughest, most rewarding job on the planet. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of each day until you forget to take time to really connect and engage with your children. And if you have preschoolers and toddlers it can be quite challenging! Their little bodies and minds are going a thousand different directions. Today, I’m excited to share with you 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler and I’ll also be sharing a little review of the new book 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids. And bonus! There is also a discount code to get 50% off the book!

One thing that is really important to me as a parent is listening to my girls’ hearts. I want them to know that they can talk to me about anything. Right now as a preschooler and toddler, they tell me little things, but one day those little things will turn into big things like friendship drama and boys, and I want them to still feel comfortable enough to talk to me about it all.

I love having them tell me all about the bugs they dug up in the garden or why they painted the sky bright pink. But sometimes it seems almost impossible to get them to talk to me. Oh sure, they are talking a mile a minute, but they are not sharing what’s on their hearts and minds. I like to periodically have little chat sessions with them so they can share whatever they want with me.

Sometimes those sessions take place snuggled in my bed before we begin the day. Sometimes we are in the car driving to the grocery store. Other times it’s while we watch a favorite TV show or read a favorite book.

At the bottom of the post you will find a downloadable PDF link with the 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler.

35 Questions to engage your preschooler or toddler

  1. How did you sleep? If my girls answer good, it’s high fives all around. If they say bad we talk about what we can do to make them feel better like hugs/cuddles, having some quiet time or naps, or going to bed earlier.
  2. Did you have any dreams that you would like to tell me about?
  3. What is one thing you would like to do today?
  4. If you could pick out dinner, what would we have?
  5. What would you like to learn about today?
  6. Tell me about your picture.
  7. What is one thing you learned today? I like having Dad ask this since he was not there. They like to give him mini lessons on what they learned.
  8. Who is your favorite character in ___ (insert favorite TV show/movie/book) and why do you like ___ (insert character name)?
  9. After a character makes a mistake or does something wrong, What do you think ___ (insert character name) should have done differently here?
  10. If you were in ___ (insert favorite TV show/movie/book) what would you do first?
  11. What was your favorite part about today? (or) What made you happy today?
  12. What made you sad today? It’s good to get them talking through their feelings.
  13. Is there anyone you wish you could have seen today?
  14. If you could go on a trip where would you go?
  15. What do you want to be when you grow up?
  16. What is the first thing you want to do when we get to ___ (the park, playground, grandparents house, splash pad, etc)
  17. What made you feel loved today? It’s very important that they feel loved everyday!
  18. What is your favorite thing to do as a family?
  19. Would you sing me a song?
  20. What is your favorite animal? And why do you like ___ (insert animal)?
  21. If you could have any animal as a pet, what would you have?
  22. If you could have a superpower, what would you have? My girls are very much enamored with the Avengers. In case you are wondering, Cakey would be Jane the Wasp and Doodles would be Ironman or Hawkeye.
  23. If you had 3 wishes, what would they be?
  24. If your clothes could only be one color, what color would they be? Cakey’s of course always picks pink and Doodles usually picks yellow.
  25. If you could be an animal for a day, what animal would you be and why?
  26. What is your favorite thing to do?
  27. Where is your favorite place to be?
  28. Who made you smile today?
  29. What was the funniest thing that happened today?
  30. Are you afraid of something? What is it and why?
  31. What do you like about ___ (insert each family member)?
  32. Is there anything you would like to change about our family? The last time I asked this the girls informed me they wanted a brother.
  33. What is one thing you would like to do this weekend as a family?
  34. How many hugs (or kisses) do you need each day?
  35. Do you have any prayer requests? Or who would you like to pray for tonight?
8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids by Dr. Todd Cartmell
About the book:

“I love my child, but parenting is hard.”

Whether you find parenting intuitive or impossible, we could all use a hand here and there. Let child psychologist and father Todd Cartmell walk you through the nuts and bolts of healthy, effective parenting.

Using examples from his home and 20 years of professional practice, Todd gives eight essential and practical tools to help you:

  • Maintain a healthy relationship with your child
  • Develop a nurturing home culture
  • Correct behavior in lasting ways

The 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids are: Talking, Listening, Influencing, Connecting, Teaching, Encouraging, Correcting and Learning. Each tool is broken down into 5 short chapters. The chapters are only a 3-4 pages long and include both a practical tip and some questions to ponder. They are perfect to read a chapter before bed. Which is perfect for our busy lives!

SOCIAL – CORNER

Official Website– www.8simpletools.com

Dr. Todd Cartmell’s FB

Update 5/16/2016: Moody Publishers was offering a discount code for 50% off 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids that expired on May 15th. I have updated this post to reflect that change. The book is still available on Moody Publishers or here on Amazon.

35 Questions to Engage Your Preschooler or Toddler - 35 questions to ask your preschooler or toddler to engage and listen to their hearts also review of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids. And bonus! There is also a discount code to get 50% off the book! #8SimpleTools #FlyBy

My thoughts

I started reading 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids on Tuesday and have really been enjoying it and finding it very insightful. I love how each of the 8 tools are broken down into 5 short chapters. The chapters are easy to read especially with two active littles running around. While I have not finished the book, I should finish it by the end of next week, and I plan on reading it again with James. I think there is a lot of information inside that will greatly benefit our family. So far I have made it through “Talking and Listening” and most of “Influencing.”

I have already begun implementing some of the main ideas in the Talking and Listening chapters. And I have to say that I’ve noticed differences in the girls and my interactions compared to how they normally were. Not that my girls are listening immediately, but they’ve improved and so have I.

As a wife and mother, I believe it is essential for me to continue growing and learning how to be a better wife, mother, friend, and person. While 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids is a parenting book I have found that some of the tips are important to be implemented in other areas of my life as well.

I hope these 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler help give you a start on some great conversations with your kiddos. Just remember, you are asking them questions to listen to their hearts. So let them talk and only ask questions to follow up and keep them talking.

35 Questions to Engage Your Preschooler or Toddler - 35 questions to ask your preschooler or toddler to engage and listen to their hearts also review of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids. And bonus! There is also a discount code to get 50% off the book! #8SimpleTools #FlyBy

You can download the 35 questions to engage your preschooler or toddler here via Dropbox.

Have a great day!
Brandi
This post may contain referral links. Please read my disclosure policy here.

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Comments

  1. three little kittens says

    July 18, 2016 at 8:04 am

    grt ideas keep on posting..

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      July 31, 2016 at 5:20 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  2. Alison says

    June 6, 2016 at 9:26 pm

    This is a great list of questions. Oddly, getting my 4 year old is just as hard as getting my 14 year old to respond with anything other than “nothing” when quizzed about their days. Maybe my approach is just all wrong – I’ll definitely be trying a couple of these.

    Reply
  3. Anna Clarke says

    May 29, 2016 at 11:03 pm

    I seriously love this so much!! These are such wonderful questions that are so helpful to connect with our little ones. So very different, but so relevant & great ways to learn more about them and their personalities. Thanks for sharing!! -xx Anna from http://www.annaclarkeblog.com

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 30, 2016 at 12:52 pm

      Thank you so much, Anna! It means so much to me!

      Reply
  4. Michelle Delgado says

    May 12, 2016 at 11:01 pm

    This should be a mandatory parenting read! Such insightful and genuine information. I will definitely be purchasing this book soon.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:10 pm

      I hope you gain as much from the book as I have, Michelle.

      Reply
  5. Chelsea L. says

    May 12, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    I totally agree everything that you have said on this post. Spending time with your kids and open communication are the best tools to build a good relationship. When they grow up those memories that you’ve shared on them will be there forever. I am not a mother yet hopefully soon but this book really caught my interest and I know soon I may need this.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:09 pm

      Thank you, Chelsea. I know that by spending time with them now I will be creating bridges that will last a lifetime. Just like my mom did!

      Reply
  6. Dee says

    May 12, 2016 at 11:59 am

    These are awesome questions to ask your little to to get them talking and to get to sharing what they have been through. I believe it also helps develop speaking skills and helps with them express who they are.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:07 pm

      Very true, Dee. Those skills will be so important as they grow up.

      Reply
  7. Tiffany Hathorn says

    May 12, 2016 at 4:13 am

    This is such a great post! So many awesome ideas for things you can ask to generate a dialogue between you and your child. It not only helps you to bond and get to know your child – it is also a way to help them learn to answer questions and practice their vocabulary – both of which are important life skills.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:07 pm

      So true, Tiffany! By chatting with them you are not only getting to know their hearts but also helping them practice and strengthen their vocabulary and learn to answer questions.

      Reply
  8. brianna george says

    May 11, 2016 at 11:56 pm

    So maybe THIS is THE MANUAL of how to raise kids? 😉 hahaha Sounds like a great book.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:05 pm

      It is a good one, Brianna!

      Reply
  9. Caroline harries says

    May 10, 2016 at 8:24 pm

    What a helpful post for so many. I love that you choose to engage your children. What a blessing it is that they have you!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:04 pm

      Thank you, Caroline.

      Reply
  10. Sarah Eliza @ devastateboredom says

    May 10, 2016 at 12:15 pm

    Jane the Wasp, haha! That choice of Superhero cracks me up. 🙂 Super cute questions — such a great list!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:04 pm

      I know! It’s hilarious!

      Reply
  11. Kristy @ Mommy Hates Cooking says

    May 10, 2016 at 8:33 am

    Opening up those lines of communication now when they’re small is so integral to building that foundation for their teen years when they don’t want to talk to you quiet as much. I love these questions to get them to open up and talk. I need to read that book!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:04 pm

      It really is. Letting your kids know you will listen when they are little progresses to them wanting to talk to you as they get older.

      Reply
  12. Inspiring Kitchen says

    May 10, 2016 at 5:14 am

    This is an interesting book and those are great questions to ask your preschooler. I think it is important that we engage them in conversations like this. This will help them remember what they learned.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:02 pm

      Yes, engaging them will help them retain what they are learning.

      Reply
  13. Mihaela Echols says

    May 10, 2016 at 12:26 am

    These are great for dinner time conversations too!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:01 pm

      Yes! They would be perfect for that too!

      Reply
  14. Jacqui says

    May 9, 2016 at 11:11 pm

    Absolutely beautiful. This should be a book they hand out to new parents at every hospital. If we start young, they’re more receptive (or is that just my kids?). Adding this to my reading list.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 5:01 pm

      It’s true! The younger we start doing things like this with our kids the more common and comfortable they feel doing it. Thanks for commenting, Jacqui.

      Reply
  15. Faith says

    May 9, 2016 at 10:48 pm

    This is so great! I love collecting relationship-building things like this for our someday children!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:59 pm

      I hope they bless you someday in connecting with your kids, Faith.

      Reply
  16. Ashley Winters says

    May 9, 2016 at 9:35 pm

    These are great questions. I went to school to be a teacher and I can’t tell anyone enough the importance of open ended questions. Some kids just don’t know how to answer them. It is absolutely necessary for Istep testing and just a great skill for kids to have. Thanks for sharing.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:59 pm

      Thank you so much, Ashley! Anything to get and keep them thinking, right? Open ended questions are a favorite of our family.

      Reply
  17. Marie says

    May 9, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    Great ways to get past the “was fine” part of the day too.

    Engaging them will help them to remember what they learned.

    Great list!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:57 pm

      Very true, Marie. I’m hoping by engaging them now, when they are older we don’t have the “was fine” comments because they will be so used to telling us everything.

      Reply
  18. Megan Darda says

    May 9, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    These would be great questions for me to use with my students, as well. Thanks for sharing!

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:55 pm

      Your welcome, Megan!

      Reply
  19. Pamela Kuhn says

    May 9, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    I love these questions. My parenting mentor told me to get them talking when they are young and when they are teens it will be a given. Both my daughters are married and they still love to tell me about their day. I’ll share this book with others.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:54 pm

      It’s true. Once talking with their parents about the little things becomes natural so will talking about the big things. Thanks so much for commenting, Pamela.

      Reply
  20. Kay says

    May 9, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Sweet post, some great ideas! It’s so important to make sure they are getting the time and attention they need.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:52 pm

      Yes, it is very important, Kay.

      Reply
  21. Shirley Wood says

    May 9, 2016 at 1:06 pm

    As a grandmother, I always enjoy quizzing my grandchildren and hearing what they are thinking and how their day went. They are all well passed the toddler stage but I still ask questions and enjoy the conversation even more now.

    Reply
    • Brandi says

      May 13, 2016 at 4:52 pm

      Absolutely, Shirley! We should be trying to engage them regardless of their age!

      Reply

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